By: Maria Climent Huguet
Maria Climent is a 26-year-old Catalan lady. After studying translation, she decided her life was odd enough to became a humor scriptwriter and by default, a blogger. This is how she’s now a mother of no one and a better person. She also likes to cook!
Let’s say you see a comedy movie with someone you like, you’ve had a great day and you are in a good mood. The film makes you laugh a lot, then a few months later someone asks you if you’ve seen the movie. You will undoubtedly reply, “Yes! It’s great. So funny”, because you have a nice memory of that time and the movie. But it may happen that you see the same movie on another day in which you are not in a good mood, or maybe you watch it alone, and do not laugh as much as that first time you saw it.
This is the reason great Spanish singer-songwriter Joaquín Sabina warns in one of his songs that donde fueras feliz, no debieras tratar de volver (wherever you were happy, you should not try to go back). This happened to a friend of mine who had the time of her life when she was living for a year in one of the Budapest apartments. Four or five years later she wanted to go back to visit the city and old friends. Most of her friends were still there, the city had not suffered many changes, even her favourite bar was still run by the same guy. The only difference was herself; she was not in the same mindset that she was before when she lives there, not the same motivation, not the same objectives, not the same emotions.
This is the same reason why people prefer the book over the movie, because most people normally read the book before they watch the film (amongst other reasons because when a novel is great, then it is adapted to cinema). According to research, if a story is good, the impact that it causes on our brain the first time we have access to it is so strong that it’s impossible to create such a strong impact the second time, resulting in dissapointment.
So, hey, travellers, don’t end up like my friend who was upset because she went back to the apartments in Budapest. If you find a destination you love, don’t let this hold you back from visiting it a second time. Just be aware, it will not be the same as the first time you went. Make new memories and emotions in that destination.
I think it is good to return- if nothing else you learn more about yourself, that is if you’re truly open to change.
very true… change can be challenging, in a good way.